As a kid, I was blessed to have a mom who valued my independence and self-worth. She had a special way of reacting when we showed her our creations. It was always with a simple yet powerful question: “How do YOU feel about it?”
At first, I didn’t understand how much this meant. Her question let me think about my own feelings and opinions. She never rushed to give her opinion or overwhelmed us with praise. Instead, she waited patiently, letting us evaluate our work.
A Pause for Reflection
When my mom asked, “How do YOU feel about it?” she gave me a chance to think deeply about my work. If I said I loved it, she’d ask what I liked about it. Her questions were gentle, encouraging me to share my thoughts.
If I said I didn’t like it, she didn’t try to fix it. Instead, she calmly asked what I’d change. This made me feel safe to reflect on my work. It was more empowering than just praise.
Teaching Me to Value My Own Opinion
Looking back, I see how much my mom’s question shaped me. It taught me to trust my own judgment, not just seek others’ approval. Her method made me realize my opinion was important.
Her question, “How do YOU feel about it?” was a gift. It made me feel like my work and decisions were mine. I learned to create for myself, not just to please others.
Praise with Purpose
My mom did praise us a lot, but she was careful about when. She never shared her opinion first. This made her praise more meaningful.
Her praise felt like a collaboration, not just empty words. For example, if I was proud of my coloring, she’d say, “Yes, you did a great job staying within the lines.” Her words were a confirmation of my own pride.
The Lessons I Carry Today
Now, as a mom, I think about how my mom’s approach shaped me. Her questions taught me to value my own opinion. It’s a lesson I pass on to my kids.
When my kids show me their creations, I ask, “How do YOU feel about it?” It’s amazing to see them open up. They share their pride and what they’d improve next time. It’s a conversation about their feelings and process, not my approval.
Bigger Than Praise
My mom’s approach was more than just praise. It built my confidence in judging my own work. It taught me I don’t need others’ approval to feel proud of myself. Her patience and curiosity helped me learn to be the same with myself.
In a world that values quick results and outside approval, my mom’s way is refreshing. It reminds us to slow down and think. This lesson is something I’m thankful for and hope to share with others. If you’re a parent, teacher, or just someone wanting to boost confidence, ask, “How do YOU feel about it?” It can make a big difference.
